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I Don’t Know If He Is My Boyfriend, Partner or More?

Posted on 27. Dec, 2009 by Alan Bentley in Dating

Just look at this picture -- you have been going out with the same guy for quite some time now and are quite comfortable in his presence and have settled into something of a routine. You really don't know what he represents though and wonder whether he is boyfriend, partner or husband material?

As you go through the roller coaster that we know as dating, you have to understand that it is a process of discovery. It's natural to want to shortcut the process and dream about kids and a husband to come home to in the future, but you can't rush things and after all you should enjoy your life journey anyway.

If you are still wondering whether he is your boyfriend, partner or could be more and have spent some time dating already, then the unfortunate answer is that he is not the one for you, most likely. Understand that by taking time to get to know each other you should, deep down have made the decision one way or the other. If you just stay together for the sake of it, you will both be unhappy as things work out.

You might say that it is very difficult to find someone to be with, whom you are happy and contented alongside. However, you need to ask yourself whether you are just lonely and craving company, or whether you have found the right boyfriend, partner for the long haul?

If you have been through a number of difficult relationships in recent times you may be tempted to try and assign a title to your latest love interest. Its true that dating is never easy, but it is essentially a process of elimination and you will have false starts until you actually find the right one.

Dating is always about compromise to a certain extent and will always require a modification of behaviors or positions and a gradual understanding and acceptance of the other person. This is quite natural and is part of the journey from boyfriend, partner or husband.

We have an inner self who we should listen to from time to time, as if we are not sure about the makeup of our love life and know whether he is the right guy, then an honest and frank discussion with him is the way to go. Chances are you'll end up being good friends, anyway.

Resetting the dating clock and starting again is a sometimes traumatic experience, but it helps to build our character as we go. Next time, think about doing some research to learn from others, who have also been through these roller coasters, as this may help you to repurpose and start afresh.

Writer Alan Bentley has a great deal of material to help you understand the boyfriend partner quandary. A great resource can be found at at www.cracktheguycode.com.

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